This past Saturday was a beautiful sunny 28oC Saturday; it’s about two weeks before the end of school. It’s what everyone would classify as the perfect weekend! My boys and I had been inside doing winter kind of activities – watching movies, reading, on our computers. We were tired from the week and procrastinating on our chores. My 14-year-old son, A, and I went out to run an errand. The whole city seemed to be outside; gardening, biking, walking, etc. On our way back, I mentioned that I felt guilty. The rest of our conversation went like this…

Me: I feel guilty for not doing any outside things on this beautiful day

A: Like what?

Me: Gardening?

A: Do you want to garden?

Me: No. Maybe we should be biking?

A: Do you want to bike?

Me: No. Maybe we should go for a walk?

A: Do you want to walk?

Me: Ummm, no.

A: Well, why would you feel guilty about not doing these things?

Me: Speechless.

My 14-year-old son called me out on my guilty feelings!  Wow, what an eye opener this was.

We are in the home stretch of the school year. I work in an elementary school and he is just entering exams. The dryer is giving us trouble, the house is hot, we have inside house chores to do. Like everyone, we have a lot of stressors right now.

Yet, seeing “society” out doing summer things, sent me off on the path of guilt for also not doing these things. I bet I am not alone.

But…I cannot do it all, nor should I. You cannot do it all, nor should you. So, what should we do? We take a page from my son’s mindset! What do we need to do? What do we want to do?

Guess what we did? We drove to our favorite specialty coffee shop, enjoyed fancy icy coffee and drove home to continue our lazy weekend inside our house!